This came up today and I wanted to shed some light on it... maybe.lol
"Why do the vast majority of guys take notice of a light-skinned female versus a dark, maybe even PRETTIER, female?"
Yes, its the question that plagues are very existence...lol maybe not.
My theory is as follows.
The pivotal word here is "light". Some people would even use the term "bright" as in, "bright-skinned". To demonstrate my point PICTURE THIS:
(I can get crazy with analogies, so brace urself)
You are instructed to choose 1 flower from a bag handed to you. Upon opening the bag u notice that it seems that all flowers are the same unorthodox color, a rich black. Exotic in nature, for sure, you are stunned by the sight, but you choose not to settle in picking one of the many black flowers in haste, but you decide to at least comb through the bag thoroughly in an effort not to make a bad choice. After all, you are to only choose 1, better make it a good one, huh? While observing the flowers you stop suddenly, in that it seems that one sole bright yellow flower has been placed among the bunch. The yellow flower is not necessarily prettier than its counterparts. Its only striking difference is its color..... I believe that most pick the yellow as their choice.
Now, there are different levels in this.
You should know by now that the black flowers represent my dark-skinned sistas, and the single yellow flower represents our "yella", appropriately so, lol.
1. Rarity
The bag was filled with BLACK flowers! Just like our planet, I think its safe to say that light-skinned women are in the minority when it comes to skin color. The black flowers could be beautiful in their own right, but when you are used to seeing them, you can't help but notice the 1 Yella at the back of the club, or the 1 Yella on the yard, or the 1 yella in your class. More often than not the females that I encounter on a day-to-day basis, of african-american descent are dark-skinned. Shoot, lets put a figure on it... 4 out of every 5. eh. That seems about right.
2. "Light" for a reason
After combing through all those black flowers, I'm sure it was EASY to spot the yellow flower in that it was simply a brighter color. Call me dumb, but a lighter toned young lady, pretty or ugly, will get a glance from any man in the vicinity per the previously stated principle. She is the florescent in a room of black lights. She is just PHYSICALLY brighter. She cant help that.
The above observations are those taken b4 considering personality, style, education etc. I think that thats where most attraction begins anyway, whether you like it or not. I am not going to touch on how either type of girl walks, talks or behaves cuz I think that thats way too broad of a subject.
I said all this to say not to be so hard on the fellas. These 2 principles are hard to overcome. I'm not saying men don't overcome, because they do ALL the time, but if he glance ova dat way, or u see dude choosing that yellow flower, just know that neither party can help it.
Its NATURE baby.
my yellow flower, lol
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I hardly eva go back and proofread my stuff, so dont judge... be free.
-Ono